Raising and educating children is not an easy matter. Mistakes of parents in adopting parenting can affect children's behavior later on. Therefore, it is important for parents to learn the correct parenting principle in order to form positive character in children.
Children are like blank white paper that can be decorated with graffiti or writing. The writing can make the paper beautiful or vice versa. Well, it all depends on the parenting that parents apply to children.
Parenting principles that need to be applied by parents
Good parenting can help foster a sense of caring, honesty, independence, and joy in children.
Good ways of parenting can also support children's intelligence and protect children from anxiety, depression, promiscuity, and alcohol and drug abuse.
The main principle of good parenting is to raise and educate children with love, while supporting, guiding, and being a pleasant friend.
The following are 5 parenting principles that you can apply:
1. Be a good role model for children
Children tend to imitate what their parents do. Therefore, being a good role model for children is one of the important ways to educate children by parents.
When you want to instill positive character in children, set an example for them, for example by always telling the truth, behaving well and politely towards others, and helping others without expecting anything in return.
In addition, show your child how to live a healthy life, for example eating vegetables and fruits every day, brushing teeth after eating and before going to bed, and throwing trash in its place.
2. Don't spoil the child too much
As a parent, you may not realize that all this time you always obey the wishes of the baby. Now, it's time to break the habit and at the same time provide learning to children so that they are not too spoiled.
For example, don't obey a child's will when he cries because he wants to watch television when it's time to go to bed, ask to buy something he doesn't need, or when he whines to play a gadget.
Disciplining children is one form of child love that is important for parents to form good character in children.
However, do not also scold him or even hit him when he made a mistake. Try rebuking him gently but firmly when he makes a mistake and give him understanding.
Do not forget to also give praise when he does good things. This will motivate him to be a good child.
3. Take time for children every day
Children who do not get the attention of their parents, can do bad actions or misbehave. Usually, they take these actions to get the attention of parents. So, no matter how busy you are, always take the time to get involved in his life.
But keep in mind, involving yourself in the lives of children does not mean you have to be constantly beside him, you know!
Take time to establish relationships and quality activities, such as breakfast together, take her to school, come to every event the child does, or just talk before going to bed about the activities he does all day.
4. Grow the nature of independence in children
Train children to be independent can be instilled by giving children confidence, opportunities, and appreciation. For example, by teaching children to tidy up their own toys and beds or just familiarize children to prepare their own school supplies.
When a child enters adolescence, parents can also support and help children to solve their personal problems, namely by discussing and directing children's minds to take the best attitude.
Understand that independent learning is not easy for children. So, show your appreciation and affection for every effort and success. For example, by saying thank you or giving praise when he completes his task well.
You can also slip a piece of paper in the food stock that reads "Mama dear and proud of you". That way, children will feel themselves valuable. But remember, when they fail or make mistakes, don't mock them, let alone compare themselves to other children.
5. Determine the rules at home by accompanying the reason
Applying rules can help your child learn to control themselves and distinguish good and bad behavior. When making rules, explain the reasons why the rules are made.
For example, using electricity as needed to save costs, not excessive in using gadgets or mobile phones because it is not good for health, or not watching TV before homework is finished.
Make sure you are always consistent in applying the rules that you make. If you are not consistent, the child will feel confused and may underestimate the rules.
Disciplining children is important, but not in a way that is too hard, like throwing harsh words or even hitting him. Children who are accustomed to being beaten by their parents tend to prefer fighting and violence to solve problems with their friends.
Consistently applying the principles of parenting above is indeed not as easy as one might imagine, considering that every parent also has limitations, both a matter of time and energy. It would be better if you focus on the things that need the most attention first.
No less important, parents must understand that the environment and age can influence children's behavior. So, apply parenting according to the age and development of your baby.
If you have difficulty applying this parenting principle or if the child has problems behaving, try to discuss and seek advice from other parents, your parents, or teachers at your child's school.
If needed, you can also consult a child psychologist to get the best advice.
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